Divorce Much?
When I met my husband, it was the infamous line “God meant for you to be my spouse” that made my heart melt. Not knowing that phase is one of the Devil as it rang with a sting through the eternity of my marriage.
While the white dove soars and rice pours for new beginnings and prosperity. The rollers would come with the intensity of more than a thousand suns. For every monstrous wave that was to come would demolish the foundation, and my cries would turn into agonizing howling.
I had yet to intellectualize the spiritual warfare I was encountering; for I followed the stench of societal standards that permeate church walls. It’s the aroma of if you can have sex, you can be married.
Once I started to study the word of God, I found out the true workings of a Godly marriage. Eagerly, I would look at my husband and scream take my hand. Not knowing the hand that I offered looked like the hand of the butler Hanson (from Scary Movie 2). It was crippled with a readying denouncement of his treacherous marital ways but manicured with the white-tipped perfection of mine.
I assumed that God called me to correct that man, but he had called me to be obedient to trust him. At the time I had no obedience of my own. I chased down all the saints in my church to give me excuses to stay in my marriage. I would go and beg others to speak to God on my behalf because of my understanding of God's word. To be completely honest our marriage was the mirrored façade of Matthew 7:24-25* with the structural integrity of Matthew 7:26-27*.
The marriage was never built on God but rather wished. Malichi 2:16* reads, “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.”
This was written during a time when men were the only ones exclusively practicing divorce. Over the last three years, I would come to a different conclusion other than that God hates divorce. Would be men willing to break faith with their wives, but they are also ignoring the bonding relationship and spiritual purpose of being united with God.
In my experience, I do believe another act that is displeasing to God is to marry when he has not ordained it to be. Read Matthew 19:1-12*.
The practice of marriage back then, just like today, falls short of God’s expectations. God allowed Moses to write a law to help the women who back in those days fell victim to men that would put them out due to sexual immorality they may have committed (either themselves or their wives).
Even though divorce was easy with a written letter (at least back in those times now it is about $12,000). You must go and read the law God permitted Moses to write, which is Deuteronomy 24:1-4 which reads, “Suppose a man marries a woman but she does not please him. Having discovered something wrong with her, he writes a document of divorce, hands it to her, and sends her away from his house. When she leaves his house, she is free to marry another man. But if the second husband also turns against her, writes a document of divorce, hands it to her, and sends her away, or if he dies, the first husband may not marry her again, for she has been defiled.”
Now before you get on that high horse and start acting like a Pharisee. It was God honestly telling folks that they can’t spin the block. Think about it you are married to become one and then you want to break up to “see what it's like”. Next, you have the nerve to tell God you're sorry for not listening (but yet we ALL do).
That’s something even the Almighty doesn’t have time for. Our God is not a block spinner!
The Deuteronomy passage doesn’t encourage divorce it is suggesting that both parties need to think about the act before doing so because it is a permanent action. Even when getting married.
Also, it was to prevent a casual remarriage after a traumatizing event for both parties and families involved.
How does all this relate to me...? I’m glad you asked.
I did not consult anyone who was anointed by God with my marriage. Hell, we weren’t even married by a pastor but instead by his wannabe grandpa with the marriage certificate signed by his mother.
I beg you to just do your research and pray. Please note that with every prayer you pray the answer is on its way but do not be weary of the spiritual delay.
*Please read all scriptures that are quoted.
